Monday, January 28, 2013

Just Like Yesterday



I remember the day just like yesterday. Waking up, glancing at my clock, then shifting my attention to the sinking snowflakes; only to etch in my memory that at 8:45 a.m. Sunday morning, January 27, 2008, we had recently received several new inches of fresh clean snow. Energy wove through my body, realizing that today would have been perfect for snowboarding with my oldest brother, who was already there. Sitting up, I noted voices down the hall. My family’s voices, mixed with other familiar voices, invited me to clamber out of bed and join them. I quickly dressed myself and sauntered down the hall only to find some making breakfast, while others curled up on the couches watching animation. Receiving word that no help was needed in the preparation, I joined the group in the living room, slumping into comfort, wrapping myself into a blanket. Then, the atmosphere changed. Mom received a unfamiliar call on her cell, so we respectfully paused the film to allow her to speak, “Debby speaking” the familiar voice rung. Then, silence. Mom’s face bleached into a pale gray color as she replied, “Yes, this is his Mother.” Frantically, my Father gently demanded, “What happened? What is going on!?” Our friend glanced at him saying, “Mark Maniscalco was in an accident?”. What! This can’t be! He has to be okay! We were just riding rails together on Friday before he left. He has to be fine. The thoughts frantically spun through my mind, pushing tears out my eyes… Mom’s voice began to quiver, “Okay…We will be on our way down right away”… The pauses that lasted only seconds seemed to last years. My heart was pounding in my chest, moving toward my throat. I attempted to swallow it back down, but was being unsuccessful. After what seemed like hours, Mom got off the phone. Questions jetted her direction,  “What is happening, is Nick okay? Who was that?”… Calmly, she began to respond with a quivering voice, “That was the doctor. Nick was in a serious accident, hit his head, and they don’t think he is going to live.  They can’t tell us much until they have proof that we are his family. Plus he is nineteen, so legally they can’t tell us everything without his permission. They told me that the roads are so dangerous that we should not go down to see him.  Several ambulances have even gone off the road, but we have to go.” Dad rapidly responded, “What do they think we are, stupid, of course we are going to go right now! Our son is on his deathbed, I’m not going to sit here. Melina, go pack your bags, we don’t know when we are going to come back home. I am calling Ben to see if we can barrow his vehicle.” Dashing to my room, I crumpled in a sobbing heap in the corner, “God, please don’t take him away. This can’t be. He is my best friend.  He was just fine. I love him so much! Everyone loves him. Please, please, I plead, help him to be okay.” Consciously collecting myself, I grabbed the nearest bag, and began stuffing clothing into it. Moments passed, and we were making our way down to Walla Walla. The amount of time it took to arrive in Walla Walla doubled, because of the treacherous roads. On the way, I listened as we spread the shocking news to close family and friends. Tears trickled down my face on occasions when recalling the minimal information we were given. Upon arriving to the hospital, several friends uneasily greeted us, and lead us to the third floor. I took one step out of the elevator, only to be overwhelmed when I scanned around to see just fewer than one hundred of Nick’s friends intently watching us, searching our faces for peace, with a hope that this was all a joke. Silently, they watched, as we were lead by nurses down the longest, darkest hallway to the entrance of the ICU. With permission, we creaked the door open, slid in, and moped down another hallway. I watched the condition of each patient as we ambled by, none of which appeared as if they were going to survive; later I learned that many of them didn’t. As we rounded the corner we passed a room, I took special note of the kid lying in the bed. The octopus tubes attached to countless different parts of his body. He appeared to be young, like my brother’s age, but didn’t look much like him. I was glad that it was not my brother, because he didn’t look to hopeful. I prayed for his family, that God would comfort them and be with them. Then, the nurse took a sharp right turn into that kid’s room. My body screamed, my heart skipped a beat, and I lost my breath. As the nurse motioned me past her into the room, she whispered, “Speak to him like he is okay, you never know how much he really knows is happening.” Mustering up all the courage I could, with my mouth quivering, I choked out, “Hey, Nick! This is Melina! I’m here for you.” Understanding my skepticism, the nurse whispered to me that I could touch his hand if I wanted to, so I did. One finger, gently connecting with his repetitive seizing skin, holding back the tears and screams that I held locked inside. It was too much, I had to take a break, so we returned down the darkest, longest hallway to searching eyes, sobbing into the arms of them. The doctor told us that the chance of him making it out alive was slim, but that if he did, it would be a long road. God had a plan in mind. Here it is, five years later; it’s been a long road, but I wouldn’t change it for the world. What God has taught my family, and how He has brought us closer together is priceless. Nick has been required to relearn most everything all over again, but he has used it to glorify God, and draw other’s closer to God. Today, January 27, 2008 marks the worst and the best day of my life. 

Monday, January 21, 2013

Jenga Hiccups


That moment when everything bottled up is placing pressure on the lid. It’s loosening, ready to explode. Soon, it’s seeping through the cracks of the lid, progressing into a rush. Don’t get me wrong, life is incredible, I am unbelievably blessed. But too naturally I play the game Jenga with my hiccups in life. Keeping it in one place, watching it build up, only to see it become unstable and collapse; when, I could have constructively built a gorgeous log cabin. As pressure was on my lid, I sealed myself from others, to let the tower collapse in personal worship. No greater place to take it than God. As the day wandered by, I continued to carefully remove the blocks of the tower as I vigorously practiced a new found interest. Only to complete my day with an unpredicted, but awesome, chat with a great friend. I removed the lid, and allowed remains of the hiccups to drain into a bucket of trust. But as the conversation came to a close, I calculated several conversations that I never asked him about. Ones that I wanted to dig deeper on, showing that the friendship matters to me. His patience and listening ear meant an immense amount. Next time, I will return the favor, not overtaking the conversation. I’ll make sure that I am caught up on the blog too. =P Now, as I look at my empty bottle, my disintegrated Jenga tower, I know that I am enormously blessed.

Sunday, January 20, 2013

The Hole in Our Gospel


This smoldering passion surges into flames every time I study my Bible. As I recently discovered, this topic occurs over 2,000 times in the Word, distinguishing its importance. But where is it in our lives? As many times as I have endeavored to smother this flame, it continuously smolders in me. My aim for smothering this passion is because I am lost with the sincerity of some, and how to implant this lifestyle into my personal schedule. Just yesterday, as I stood on a street corner, a man walked up to the group I was mingling with, pleading for a meal, that’s all he wanted. The majority in the group naturally turned him down, but I couldn’t. I searched my empty pockets with hope for something that I could share with him… Nothing. I watched him trudge on to find someone who would help him, and my heart sank. A good friend, spotted my heartthrob, and attempted to encourage me that it was okay, that so many people do that and you never know if it’s real. But what if it is real? What if this man IS trying to find a living? What if he was successful at one point in time, but went bankrupt, and now he lives on the streets? What if he is starving? It seems as though every time someone talks about living the American dream with their Mercedes Bend, two kids, and a perfect doctor family, my mind and heart returns to the homeless and needy. We neglect the point. James 1:27 remains one example of thousands, showing that we are to support those in need, but we daily imagine living the American dream. I just began reading a book entitled The Hole in Our Gospel. Being in chapter three, the author has already addressed that we take our desired texts out of the Bible, and leave others. I’m a culprit of my own preaching. I repeatedly read texts that share the importance of helping those in need, but make up excuses for why it’s not my job to become involved with that. Unfortunately, everything didn’t change overnight, but I am trudging toward defying the odds, and acting on the importance of every text. 

Friday, January 11, 2013

Letting Go


"We are not do try to do the work of the potter. Our part is to yield ourselves to be molded by the Master Worker."- HIDL p. 4. I repeatedly catch myself relying on my own strength to accomplish what my insignificant mind can muster to think is exceedingly important. This week seemed to be exceptionally difficult for me to let go of my expectations. What happened? It’s actually not over yet, but it was both refreshing and a struggle to read this quote. There is nothing like that moment when you are struggling to hang onto everything, to the point where you break. That breaking point is outstanding, when you take the hundreds of pounds of baggage, slide it across the table to let God takeover. In all honesty, there is no way I can do it all, and I know it, but God can do it all. Give it to Him, Melina, He is the only one you can trust with it all. "Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths." Prov 3:5,6. Happy Sabbath!